Here's what I have been thinking... "Life can be as beautiful as we choose to make it." Sometimes it seems as if nothing is going right, as if the planets just don't seem to align in our favor - but it's at these very times we need to take a huge - enormous step back, pause and then rethink just where we fit into that alignment.
I have had to perform some sort of inner surgery on myself; removing the pain and past hurts and replacing them with only the beautiful parts of the lessons I have learned. Of course, that is not so easy, but it does get easier with time.
So... instead of focusing my energy upon what I had been thinking were a series of really, frickin' stupid mistakes I have made, I have decided to actively view them as amazing challenges that I have overcome and beautiful life lessons which have made me into the person I am now.
It does take practice to retrain our brains to be thankful for these hurts and to love and appreciate them, rather than to be bitter and angry about them. However, I know from firsthand experience that it can be done.
For years, I have told my boys when they were dealing with bully's or difficult children at school, that we really have no idea what that child's life is like when they are not at school. They have no idea if they go home to hugs or if they go home to abuse. I have reminded them that everyone has crap that they have to go through and to overcome - which is so true. But I also told them that when we get served up a nice, big, steamin' platter of crap - it is how we deal with it that defines who we are and who we will become.
I am not saying that anyone enjoys a big platter of crap, but you can appreciate that you were served it, and then send it away with love and be done with it, because you know that the crap will not serve you in anyway. Being upset or angry or sad about the crap only hurts us, as it steals away our energy.
So... my current and future goal is to be forever grateful for everything I am blessed to have in my life - even the occasional platters of crap - because, if you think about it, without the crap in the world, we wouldn't have fertilizer and, hey, look at all those beautiful flowers that grow up out of that very crap!
I love flowers!!
=D
Peace out!
Kristina
This is a great blog, Kristina!! And, if anyone wants help in "retraining their mind" like you say, the best book is "As a Man thinketh" by James Allen. That is my favorite book!! Also, this reminds me of some sayings...the first one from an old Triumph song: "Nothing good is easy, Nothing good is free..." And the other, I'm not sure where it is from, but it is: "Character is forged in adversity." There is no loyalty, honor or strength of character without struggle to develop it." Our greatest victories have their foundations in our greatest challenges and failures!!
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